Why Do You Hate?

Why Do You Hate? The thumbnail for this writing is a very simple one, so who knows who’ll read this. If you are though, this is a subject I am excited about writing. I actually thought of this about three weeks ago and postponed it. The thoughts I had for this topic were an old cliché, “not everyone is going to love you”, why you shouldn’t care about hate, and ways you can stop being hated by some people. “Not everyone is going to love you.” Is this actually true? I believe that it is. There’s always going to be someone, somewhere, for some reason, that just doesn’t like you. When this happens there’s usually two things that could happen; they come up to your face, and tell you that they don’t like you, or they never say anything to your face, and just avoid you at all costs, or pretend like you don’t exist, and doesn’t acknowledge your existence at all. If the first option occurs and you want to find out the reason behind it, then with a nice calm smile ask them “why?” Then, when they tell you, you can do two things; ask yourself if what they said is a flaw you actually have, and then change it, or fix it, or if you come to the conclusion that they are envious of you, or just don’t like you for some irrational, unexplainable reason. Then you’d decide to act different around them, which is usually a waste of time, which I’ll address later, or you just ignore them and stop talking to them, because they don’t matter in your life and they don’t like you, so it’s a win win. With all of that said though, does it really matter? People are going to hate you sometimes, it’s inevitable, harsh, but true, so should you even care? We’ll find out in a bit. Alright, so people are going to hate me, great, but why? What did I do, and what's wrong with me? Well, honestly, nothing's wrong with you. You're dope, amazing, and you are you. That's one of the most unique and awesome things you can be now-a-days. Then why would people hate you? Well, as I stated earlier, sometimes they're envious of you. They just don't like you because you have something or do something they can't do and/or want to do, so they just don't want to see you, think about you, or be around you. Another reason could be that they're afraid of you, taking their place, out doing them, doing anything better than them, or doing something that makes you better than them, and also being humble about it will make it worse because then it's like you do it without trying. Then the one I think happens the most, people just don't vibe with you. They dislike something you do, one of your habits, the way you talk, sometimes it's things you can't change. When there's people like this in your life, all you have to do is keep smiling. This is where I repeat something you’ve heard your entire life, but I'm gonna dive a little bit deeper into it. I think you already know what this is gonna be, especially because it was in the first paragraph. It’s why you shouldn’t worry about haters or care for that matter. You’ve heard it all the time, either from famous celebrities or your average Joe, the simple saying “screw the haters.” Sometimes it’s not that easy. Like a lot of the sayings, there’s always people that just can’t understand it, or can’t do it, so I want to go into this saying and tell you exactly why these people don’t matter. Firstly, they waste your time. Time is very important in life, it’s going forward with or without you. You can’t have someone irrelevant to you waste your time. You can do amazing things in this world, but you need time to do it, so make sure you don’t waste your time thinking about people that don’t want to think about you, and don’t talk to them for too long either, unless you gain from it, and want to change for that person, which is rare, but happens. Secondly, they really don’t matter. Honestly, how much does that person matter? if they’re your family, I understand it hurts being hated on by your family members. I’ve actually been there, and it sucks. Then I thought about it and realized, how much does this person actually affect my life? The answer was that they affect how much I let them affect it. Do not let people hating on you affect your life. You choose what gets in your life and what stays out. You’re like the immune system of your life. With that being said, now and then some things slip through the cracks, like your own immune system, but you have control over most of it, and can learn from what slips through the cracks so it doesn't happen again. Anyways, when you do run into people that don’t like you, biologically attached or not, remember this; “let’s see if you say that when I’m more successful than you.” Last but not least, it ruins your mood and health. If you didn’t already know your mood does affect your health, happiness positively, anger, and sadness negatively, hence why they are labeled positive and negative emotions. You don’t want these people to affect your health, because I’m not lying when I say these people shouldn’t affect your life, and they have to work pretty hard to actually affect it, which no one will really do. That’s why I keep saying you need to smile. Smiling will keep you happy, and it’ll show the person you hate that you’re just trying to live a happy life. What if hate does affect you, just a little, which is understandable. Sometimes things just build one by one, and you’re just having a bad day which gets the best of us. Let me give you some tips on how to have less people hate you. First, try your best to not show that you care. If someone’s hating on you and it’s getting on your nerves, keep it inside, and keep the smile outside, when they see everything they’re saying doesn’t affect you they should leave you be. Secondly, understand that you will not be liked by everyone. After this you should get that not everyone is going to like you, no matter what, there is no one in this world that everyone loves. When you understand this you then need the concept of, I don’t care what people think of me. With those two concepts you will be yourself, as I stated earlier you are yourself, and so nothing’s wrong with you. Still if you try to please everyone, there are people that will hate you for the sole fact, that you try to please everyone, so when you’re just yourself then more people like you, like “this person is real, I vibe with that.” You want that thought from people, and again if you think a reason you’re being hated on is valid, and you want to change it go ahead. No one’s perfect if someone tells you one of your flaws you should consider yourself lucky, and for the people that are talking behind your back, keep them behind you. That’s about it. I hope you understand that people will inevitably hate you, why they do, why it doesn’t matter when they do, and how to keep yourself as liked as possible. Now remember the words of Niccolo Machiavelli, “Better feared than loved, or better loved than feared? Well both is ideal, yet it is safer to be feared.” So it’s not always bad to be feared, which I stated was one reason people might dislike you. With that said that concludes this week, I said I felt good about this writing I hope I lived up to those standards, thanks for reading, keep smiling, and peace. Original

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