Treats

This title took a while to come up with, I was talking with someone to ask for opinions on what I wanted the title to be and he said, "Treat people well." I then proceeded to call him a genius and said "TREATS! That's a great name!." Unfortunately this writing isn't about candy, and sweets. What we're actually gonna talk about today is kindness and respect. More specifically we will establish the boundary between kindness and respect, what they mean in my opinion, and how to correctly give respect and kindness. Kindness and respect is normally in a package, and are addressed, as well as taught, in the same respect, or value. Which is what I am doing right now, so I can't say I don't think they're equal. Kindness and respect are very equal, they affect the way you treat people, but even deeper than that, how you think and feel about people, and how others treat and think of you as well. Then how are they different? Let's start with kindness; kindness is actions that you do for someone, physically or mentally, that benefits. Respect on the other hand, is a feeling of admiration that affects how you treat and/or speak to people. Examples of kind is nice things you do: helping someone through a tough time, giving someone an ear when they need to vent, and helping an old lady cross the street. Examples of respect is actions that show admiration: listening to someone, watching how someone does something, or maybe the simple thought of, "wow this person's awesome." The difference is that in kindness, you are giving, in respect you are taking. What exactly is kindness and respect though? There are times someone you don't admire is talking, and you're not talking in the middle of them, so is that respect? Why do people say "be respectful." when someone's talking? The answer to the first question is no. Kindness and respect are things that are mentally done, as I stated earlier these are feelings inside you, someone can be kind, yet not respect you, like a fake friend. Kindness is, again, something that is given to people, but kindness done for the wrong reason isn't kindness anymore. Let's make an example for this. If we go back to helping that old lady cross the street, if you are helping her for, I don't know, publicity. That's not kindness, kindness has to do with the intention. Good actions with a wrong intention is not kindness, you are not giving as much as you are gaining, so the balance is uneven, and I don't feel that is kindness. As for respect, respect is not actions, it's a feeling, respect is something inside you. No one can make you "be respectful" exactly, it's just what is used now-a-days, to say listen. Now if you are listening because you don't want to get yelled at, or aren't actually listening, and are spacing out, it's not respect. Respect is taking, if you don't intend to take knowledge from whoever you're listening to, it isn't respect. Which raises the question. How then, do you be kind and respectful? Let's start at respect here. There is something that is said about respect all the time. Is respect given, or is it earned? When I was younger, even younger than I am now, I would think I was so cool because I would always say it's earned. I realize now though that this isn't the case. It's not simply given either. It's in the middle. You start out giving a person 100% of your respect, be nice, listen, but when they start doing things you condemn, then you slowly take away that respect. This is how you should deal with people, always start nice, never be the one to start rude. This goes for kindness as well. Start kind, be nice, give them a good attitude, but if they start treating you badly, you slowly even it, keep the balance. Don't do this because it helps you release anger. You do this so that you can shut them up. Most people in the world are rude because no one says anything to them. Speak up, fight fire with fire. Now how should you treat it when people do respect you. This is short but sweet. Say thank you, be thankful, don't let it get to you. That concludes this week's topic. The similarity and difference between kindness and respect, what it means to be kind and respectful, how to correctly be kind and respectful, and how to go about the way people treat you. I think I said treat enough in this for the title to be valid, and with that said, have a good day, and peace. Original

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