Losing

Losing. Something no one likes to do, something no one wants to happen, unless for an advantage. Unfortunately though it happens even to the best of the best people in the world lose. I just played in a Cricket tournament (if you don't know what cricket is google it lol) and I lost. I actually had a whole writing planned out for today, which I'll write next week, but when I lost both of those matches I felt unmotivated to write, but I told myself that I'm going to no matter what, so here I am talking about it. With that said, how should you act whenever you have the chance of losing, how do you handle a loss, and how do you gain from your loss? Losing sucks, it makes you feel like you're bad at something you either cared about, or maybe lost for someone, if you don't care about what you're doing. My cricket match was the second one. I don't have that much passion for cricket, but I wanted to help my team win, while I did contribute in fielding, it was my decision making for my runs that screwed me over, and my bad batting lol. The thing is, I knew the chances of losing was pretty high, my team just wasn't up to par against the other ones, but that doesn't mean you stop trying. If you have passion for what your doing, no matter how bad, no matter how new you are at it, you need to give your 100%. For most things in life there can be a winner and a loser, or a first second third place. You need to always aim for first, it doesn't matter whether you can or not, but one thing I hate more than anything is quitting. I play video games, and one thing I never ever do is rage quit, no matter how bad the match is, no matter how much goes wrong, I will not rage quit. That's how you need to act, you need to see it through all the way to the end, even if you do lose. Make sure you don't sweat the loss, but sweat during the loss; even if you lost, or are going to, make sure you're trying your best, and giving it your all, sweat during the loss. When you do lose though, there are things that will happen, either to you, or your teammates. Those things are either sadness, anger, or both. Going back to rage quitting, that is anger. When you get mad during a match, two things could happen depending on the person, or the level of anger. First, your playing increases because you get so mad you become this try hard machine that can destroy anything and have a level of playing above everyone else. Second, you get so mad that you mess up, make dumb decisions, because your brain can't think correctly, and you have the wrong intentions of winning. It's hard to win because you want to beat the other team, it's easier to win when you want your team to win. Then when you get sad what happens is that your playing decreases, you lose hope, and your brain just says there's no more point in trying. When that happens go back to what I said before, make sure that EVEN IF YOU KNOW YOU'RE GONNA LOSE, give it your 100%. That's what champions do, that's how people make comebacks and sweeps. Never give up hope and never think that it's over, because it's not over, until it's over. Going back to anger, the best way of dealing with anger is to take your complaints, and throw them out the window. This is a game, calm down, it will be ok even if you do lose, and when you're about to blame someone for something, whether it be your teammate or the referee's call. Go back to what I said in my writing Complaints, and stop making excuses by blaming other people, and remember the concept everything is your fault, never blame someone else, it's always your fault, like my teammate called a run when I didn't think I should have, instead of saying his call was bad, I said that I should've told him to stay. Whenever you're playing something competitive this is something you need to remember to keep your cool, even though it seems you'll be more angry at yourself, a human will find a reason to tell themselves why what they did wrong is ok, but when someone else does it they get really mad, that's why you keep the blame on yourself. Stop making excuses. The last thing is what a loss can give you. Believe it or not a loss is beneficial to you, sometimes more than a win, but how? Because when you lose, you see mistakes, you see reasons why you messed up and how. With that knowledge you can go back to the old saying of people learn from mistakes. Go back to your complaints, the ones you made on yourself, and then ask yourself how could I fix what I did wrong? For me it's practice my batting more, and be more aware of what my teammates are saying. There's always something you could have done different. Now there's no point in regretting what happened, you can't go back in time so don't regret, just understand what to do next time so that you do win. Mistakes are one of the greatest things you can find, whether you make them, or you see someone else make them, you can learn from it. That doesn't mean go out and purposefully make mistakes, but when it happens, and it will, learn from them. Also when you have passion for what you're doing, this will make you better at it, you will know more about it, and you can get closer to mastering your craft. With all of that said, thank you guys for reading. Remember don't sweat the loss, sweat during the loss, keep your calm and temper,it's better for everyone, and remember to learn from those loses. No matter how good you get at something, there's always a chance that you will lose, but no matter how many times you mess, up no matter how many times you lose, that will never mean you won't win, and can't win. Also, again if you haven't read my writing "Complaints" click the word to read it. It really does tie in with this, and it's one of my favorite writings. That's all, thanks again for reading, and I hope to see you next week, peace. Original