Fault Finding

Poison is something we all want to stay away from, because no one wants poison in their system. A lot of people don’t stay away from poison, however. People poison themselves, and find ways to put things that will corrode them into their veins, their minds, and their souls. Today we’re talking about the poison of hate, specifically, hate directed outwards.

When you have hate in your veins you find faults. You will not see the positive in things, because you will not just see things. You will find some way to find something or create something negative about anything and everything that you interact with or look at. If you see a person, you judge them negatively. If you play a game, you point out the bugs. If you see the rain, you say it makes the ground muddy. And if you see the sun, you say that it’s too hot. You will find faults in everything.

If this seems to be you, I don’t judge you, and I’m not here to say, “you need to change.” However, let’s talk about what hate does to you. It changes the neurochemistry of the brain and makes the premotor cortex, the part of the brain responsible for planning and executing movement, more active, so you become aggressive. Hate will also increase the release of chemicals such as cortisol and adrenaline, which will deplete your adrenals and can contribute to weight gain, anxiety, depression, insomnia, and illness. Along with that, being negative and finding the faults in everything will narrow your thoughts and range of action. And compared to optimism, negativity makes you less creative, thoughtful, and contracts your peripheral line of sight, as well as weakening the immune system.

If you do want to change, then first understand your problem, and admit it to yourself. State that you wish to evolve. Look into yourself and ask yourself why you do or say what you do and say, and ask yourself what you want to be instead. Then everytime you feel yourself about to say or think anything hateful or to find fault with something, stop yourself, and instead fulfill who you want to be. It’s a long process, and it takes discipline and practice, but if you truly wish to, you will change.

If you’re dealing with someone who finds too many faults, understand that they’re going to find faults in you, or if you’re close with this person and they leave you alone, then they’ll find faults in other things. If they’re finding faults in other things, you may be fine, but the negative energy that surrounds that person will also affect you. If this is the case, try to show them why it would be advantageous to change, but don’t force anything upon them. If they don’t listen, you will have to determine whether or not you wish to keep them in your life. Now, if someone is finding your faults, then breathe, don’t get angry, don’t judge, don’t hate them, and don’t find their faults in return. Understand and accept that they are how they are. You can ignore them in a polite manner, or you can speak to them and try to offer solace or placate them, as they may not be having the best time in life. Kindness is something you should never be afraid to extend to anyone. If they don’t accept it, then leave them be, and go on with your life. Be patient, and stay calm. Now, if you’re dealing with many of them, the negative energy that will radiate from them will be strong, and you’ll likely want to join in. Control yourself, keep your composure, and depending on your discipline and level of willpower in the moment, you can decide to stay and be calm, or politely walk away. Overall, if you do not show or feel any negativity or animosity, and you don’t let their words affect you, then you win.

That’s fault finding. A force that will harm if you have it, and will affect you if you’re around it. I advise you try your best to avoid it, and if you do come across it, stay calm, stay positive, don’t allow your ego to flare, and you’ll be fine. Find the beauty in everything, and with that said, I hope you enjoyed this post. I hope you have a beautiful week, and I may see you in the next. Peace.