Sorry

Sorry, a very important, yet mis-connotated(not a real word by the way) in my opinion, this word can do a lot, and also there are things that we need to understand that it can't do certain things. With that stated, today we will address what the word sorry means and when it should be used, why and how you should say it, and what it cannot do. The word sorry is a word that should mean a lot. I say should because I believe that in this day and age the word has lost meaning. Before I tread that path allow me to first explain sorry. Sorry is a word that is used to tell someone that you regret something that happened to them, whether it be your doing or not, or it is used for someone in a pitiful state, the second definition is not the one we will use today. Though that defines sorry, the power of it is not defined through those words, actually, it is hard to define the power of "sorry" through words. It is an extremely powerful word that has a heavy meaning. It should be used when either one, something happened to someone without you being the cause and you feel as if that is not just, so you apologize, and say sorry; two, someone is negatively affected by something that is your fault and you feel or know that you were in the wrong. That is where I think the word sorry has lost its touch. "You feel or know that you were in the wrong." Today sorry is just used when you do something and it's socially considered "wrong". I think though, that if you do not, not from pride or stubbornness, feel as if you were in the wrong, and what you did and/or said was not wrong, you shouldn't say sorry. I also don't think you should say sorry for your accidents. I don't mean you should ignore them, acknowledge them, but don't exactly apologize for every accident unless it was 100% your fault. Say "my bad" or something of that nature. Sometimes you say things that might at the beginning hurt someone, but at the end of the day they needed to hear that. You shouldn't say sorry for helping someone. Don't bully people, but help them fix flaws. Why should you say sorry, then? Yeah sure it was your fault, but if you don't say sorry it doesn't exactly affect you sometimes, so why then should you say sorry? Because saying sorry is a win-win situation. I think everything we do on a daily basis has a selfish reason at the core of it, but usually an unconscious core. I also believe humans are motivated by things that help them. Why do people work out? To get fatter? No, because they gain health from it, and it makes them feel good. Why do people donate to the poor? Because you are left with a feeling that makes you happy and content. Now when you say sorry to someone you win because you feel good. Saying sorry is hard, it really is, so when you do it you feel a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of happiness that you have been forgiven, or at least you tried to be forgiven. The other person also wins because you said sorry, they will be at ease, and don't have to harbor negative feelings against you. As stated though it is hard to say sorry sometimes, so how do you convince yourself to do it. Well, like I said earlier you should say sorry when you know or feel you're in the wrong. Tell yourself what you did wrong, and think about the feeling that it brings, think of these two things and how bad they are. Then you will want to get rid of it, and to do that, you say sorry. Sorry does great things all in all, but there is one thing I can say that sorry does not do, cannot do, and will never be able to do. While it can help you and the person that was wronged, the word sorry is incapable of one thing. What is it? Well, sorry, no matter how many times you say it, will never turn back time. Even though I stated it will ease you, it may not cure everything, regret is regret, and I don't think you should feel it, but that's another topic. Remember that when you say sorry, and maybe you can include it in your apology, "I know that it won't turn back time, but I'm sorry." Yeah that's a good one. Sorry, again, an extremely powerful and heavy meaning word. There are specific times it should be said, there are great reasons to say it, and it will unfortunately never turn back time. With all of this stated that is all for this week, I’d like to thank my homie Sakeeb for inspiring this writing, and also I’d like to hope that the beginning of your 2018 is going wonderfully. I hope you enjoyed, agreed with at least one thing I said. With all of that said, peace. Original