I'm Not Sorry, Thank You.

In modern times, us children, when we text, use the period at the end of a text to signify that we don't want a response, and/or are agitated. In this post, as you can see there's a period at the end of the title. While I'm not agitated, this post title, at least, innately can annoy people. If you hear "I'm not sorry," you likely wouldn't feel very well. In this post we're going to break down sorry and thank you, and then talk about how sometimes you should be thankful instead of sorry.

This post came to my mind when I was talking to a friend who said that they say sorry too often. I was thinking of what he could to to help this, and the answer wasn't just to simply start saying sorry. While I feel that you can guess what I told him, I'll leave that for now. Let's break sorry down, though. Sorry is a word used when you have said or done something that will pain and/or inconvenience someone, and you want forgiveness from them for doing said action. While many people often say sorry without the intention of being forgiven, but instead say it because of manners—which I'm not insinuating is a negative thing. When it is said in this way, the genuinity of the sorry goes down, and when that happens it might make the receiver of the sorry angered instead of placated. However, it'll probably fade quickly because most humans also have the manners to say something along the lines of, "no, you're fine," and so I suppose if both sides are doing it, it evens out.

What I told my friend, and you'd never have guessed this, "turn sorry into thank you." Who would've thought I told him to say thank you instead—it's not like it's in the title or the thesis. Anyways, also in the thesis, let's talk about what it means to be thankful. Thankful is an adjective—I think it can be a verb as well—and this word means to acknowledge and understand the importance of something. On Thanksgiving we're thankful for food, on July 4th we're thankful for friends, and hopefully everyday, you're thankful about being not only alive, but human. Breaking that down more, you have to acknowledge something, and this goes back to "you don't know what you have until you lose it," which is saying that you can't be thankful for that you don't know you have, hence you must acknowledge those things. The second part is understanding it. Knowing that it's something that you should be thankful for, that it gives you a positive impact in life. Let's say you're healthy, in this case you're thankful for what you don't have, you acknowledge your lack of, say, AIDS, and you understand that you don't have a ticking timer on your life(we all have one technically, but you get the point) and so you're thankful.

Now let's talk about when instead of saying sorry, you should say thank you. The first criteria is asking yourself, do you truly want to be forgiven for what you did? Let's say you're a student, and you want to discuss a grade with your teacher, and you take up five minutes of their lunch. You've inconvenienced them by taking time away from their food time, do you want to be forgiven? Maybe, however, this is in a teacher job description, and they are the only ones you can talk to about this and get something done. Instead of saying, "sorry for taking your time," it would be more appropriate to say, "thank you for your time." Which brings up another possible criteria: were they forced to deal with your inconvenience? If they weren't forced to do so, you should thank them, not apologize, they cared enough about you to not just leave and/or ignore you. Another question you should ask yourself is, are you saying sorry because you have lapse in self-confidence and/or are speaking to someone of higher authority? If that's the case consider if you should say sorry or thank you. Overall, the way to figure it out is to analyze the situation, ask yourself quick questions, and respond appropriately.

Responding appropriately is key, see the biggest thing that will allow you to understand what you should say, sorry or thank you, is common sense. if you bump into someone, apologize, don't say, "thank you for not punching me." While you could say that, what's more appropriate? Common sense is quite an uncommon thing now-a-days, however, I'm sure that you have it(or not, I mean you read my posts, that's weird). I hope this post helped decrease the amount you apologized, and increased the amount you were thankful, other than that, have a ecstatic week, I'll see you the next, peace.